HOW AND WHERE TO MEET ELIGIBLE MEN

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So you're a woman looking for a man... First off, you have to "know" what kind of man you're
looking for, and then go wherever it is you'll most likely find that kind of man... 

What kind of man are you looking for? It's a new world we live in, and believe it or not, you can find
whatever kind of man it is you want! If you're looking for a husband, a meal ticket, a sugar-daddy, a
lover, a father, or a companion - there's a man out there for you. The problem is, of course, to find
the man that has enough of "all the things you want in a man" to satisfy you. 

There are lots of eligible men available, and with just a little bit of intelligence, there's no honest
reason why any woman wanting a man cannot find the man of her choice. The thing is, as mentioned
already - you've got to know what kind of man you want, and where you'll most likely find him - and
then, reach for him. 

Men are just like women - they want a woman they can belong to, and call their own. People have
to interact with other people in order to maintain a healthy equilibrium; and men have to interact with
women on a personal basis in order to go on living. These are undeniable facts relative to the nature
of human beings. 

Most men have the same kind of shyness, inhibitions, and fears of rejection that women have - the
only difference being that the male of our species has been trying to cope with these feelings in
regards to meeting women, a lot longer than women have in regard to meeting men. But it's a new
world - there's a lot more women out looking for men - and a lot of men seem to be caught up in
their own problems, and unaware of the eligible women around that might like to become acquainted
with them. Thus, it's now necessary for a woman to make the first move when she spots a man that
interests her and he doesn't make that first move. 

What we're saying is simply this: Nowadays, whenever and wherever you spot a man that you'd like
to get to know, and for whatever reasons, he doesn't seem to notice you, for sure, you should make
that first move towards becoming acquainted. Say you're at a dance and you spot a man that
interests you, by all means don't be hesitant to walk over and ask him if he'd like to dance with you.
Or should you be having coffee somewhere and you spot a special man, simply tell him that you
don't like being alone and would he like to join you. 

Really, there's honestly nothing out-of-line or brazen about spotting a man that interests you, walking
up to him, and telling him you find him appealing enough that you'd like to find out more about him.
Most men will be flattered by your attentions, and if they are the kind of man you "sized" them up to
be, they'll appreciate your breaking the ice for them. One other thing to understand - women are
almost always "looking for" men while most men are where they are, doing what they are doing, for
any one of a million different reasons. 

In essence, you meet eligible men by frequenting the places you're most-likely to find the kind of man
you want to meet. You have to make yourself available. Then too, if you spot a man you think might
be one that you'd like to get to know better and he doesn't make the first move towards the two of
you becoming acquainted, you should make that first move. 

It's as simple as that. In most instances, the same fear and shyness - maybe even embarrassment -
you're feeling, is haunting the man, and unless one of you makes that first move, another opportunity
will have slipped through your fingers. Don't be afraid to walk right up to a man and tell him: You
look as though you're all alone - do you want to talk for a minute or two... 

We know of some women looking for men, perhaps because of an inability to just walk up to a man
and start talking or maybe just because they have a flair for innovative approaches to the idea, have
had business cards printed up, and hand them out to the men they see that look interesting to them.
The wording on the one that most appealed to us was as follows: Hello there... Please forgive my
intrusion, but you strike me as someone I should know. My name is Mary Anderson, and if you've
got a spare minute or two, you might give me a call at 123-4567... 

You've got to have it firmly in your mind, the kind of man you want to meet. Then you've got to
make yourself available in the kind of places that kind of man is most-likely to frequent. 

Most assuredly, when you search for such a man, you should look, dress, and act according to what
you feel will most appeal to that type of man. All men notice a woman who looks good, so you
should do whatever is necessary to bring out your best features - a little make-up in the right places,
a new hairstyle, a few figure-flattering clothes - and the kind of conduct that you feel will appeal to
your kind of man. 

Now then, the easiest and surest way of meeting eligible men is through the social activities of your
local "singles" club such as Parents Without Partners, Singles International, and Servetus. Most such
groups sponsor regular dances, dinner parties, rap sessions, and any number of other activities
designed to bring divorced and/or single people together. 

Lonely Hearts Correspondence Clubs are okay, but then.. meeting someone via correspondence,
and learning to love them as result of what they write in their letters to you, is sometimes
disappointing and a hard situation to get out of when you finally do meet them face-to-face. 

Most of the Date-A-Mate services are okay, particularly those that employ video tape interviews,
but the prices you pay for their introductions are beyond reason. Generally, the success rate of these
services - that of matching you with a man that you end marrying, and staying married to him - is less
than 10-percent. Some of them are just glorified "dating or escort" services. 

Attending church in search of an eligible man sometimes works out, especially if the church sponsors
dances, parties and group outings. However, there's not as many eligible men going to church in
search of eligible women these days as there used to be. 

If you have an outgoing personality and enjoy the whole scene, you can generally find lots of eligible
men in the bars and taverns. The thing is, you have to "find" the bars or taverns that are frequented
by the age group and kind of men that meet your needs. 

You'll find a lot of "more financially secure" men in the better "motor Inn" and hotel bars. About all
you have to do is drop by and join in all the action when there's a convention or gathering of people
from out of town in one of these places. It's then that you'll find many of the "local eligibles" out on
the town, plus of course a lot of men from out of town who are looking for women. In this kind of
situation, most of the man will make the first move and once you become acquainted, they won't be
in any big hurry to make any real commitments. 

To find the action - where there's sure to be lots of eligible men - look in your local newspaper...
Look for advertisements announcing square dances, neighborhood picnics, travel tours, and of
course, festivals or similar special events. When you go to one of these activities, you've got to
mingle with the people there, keep your eyes open for a man that may be the one you're looking for,
and then - do your thing to become acquainted with him. Once you spot a man you'd like to become
acquainted with, it's basically all up to you whether you do or don't. 

Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible men is in the evening classes at your local
colleges. If you're not familiar with their services, just give the college office a call and ask them to
put you on their mailing list for bulletins and notices of up-coming classes being offered. 

Most colleges are now offering any number of seminars, classes and even short courses designed to
help people rebuilding their lives after a divorce. These classes are always well-attended, and those
that attend are eligible. One of the best ways of meeting new friends while improving yourself. 

Finally, and by all means, enlist the help of your friend and co-workers in helping you to meet new
men. Tell them you'll be happy to come to their parties if they'll invite some of the eligible men they or
their friends know. And then, you should have few parties, invite your friends and ask them to bring
along or invite some of their unattached male friends. 

Work is generally an easy place to become acquainted with eligible men, but there are any number
of risks involved - such as those that are already married. The important thing is to make your self
available - know what kind of man you want - and then do what is necessary to meet him.